I want you to smile more than you cry. I want you to find joy in the little moments of the day again. I want you to rise above this madness and chaos. I want you to choose love over hate. I want you to move past the anger and hurt of your husband's infidelity and angry threats. I want you to love living life again. I want you to stand strong in who you are as a beautiful, valuable, hard working, kind, loving woman. I want you to find true peace in your soul so that you can say, "Through the storm, I am held. It is well."
I know some days it feels impossible. The grief comes crashing in and takes your breath away. Remember when you first discovered the affair? Your mind couldn't comprehend your husband's actions. You were devastated and didn't think you would survive the pain.
You just knew that once you confronted him with the truth that he would apologize and seek your forgiveness. But when he chose the other woman over you and your children, you felt like your world had ended. You weren't sure how you would have the strength to get up each day and continue with the responsibilities of life.
BUT YOU DID GO ON!
You've woken up 56 days since your world was turned upside down. Your eyes have opened, you've gotten out of bed and you've found the strength to face each day. You've given your children the strength to stand and face each day as well. Remember when the sadness was overwhelming and the anger consumed you? And the nights that you wept uncontrollably as you tried to make sense of it all? That part is over now.
For 56 days you've survived a pain worse than you've ever known. You've gone to work, paid the bills, cared for the kids, and taken care of the house. You've grown stronger and stronger with each passing day. I bet you never realized how strong you truly were until you looked into the face of your children and realized how much they needed you to not give up on life.
I know you didn't realize just how much you loved your husband until he betrayed you and chose to speak such hateful words to you. When you realized that your marriage was over, your heart broke into a million pieces. Your mind travelled back in time through all the wonderful memories, family celebrations and even the disappointments and disagreements. You wondered how you could walk away from someone after 2 decades together. As you processed all the emotions and began picking up the pieces of your heart, you put them in the hands of your Heavenly Father. He took those pieces and put them back together with great care and gentleness. He reminded you that you are His daughter and that He cares so deeply for you. He rescued you from the darkness and upheld you with his love. He has filled the void in your heart and life with His presence. He has surrounded you with an army of prayer warriors and an amazing support system. He has proven to you that He will never leave you to walk this journey alone.
There is no magic formula to heal from infidelity. You must embrace the pain and not run from it. Don't be ashamed of your sadness. Don't feel guilty for the joy and freedom you're experiencing as you look to a new future. Don't let this affair change who you are deep down inside. Share your thoughts, your fears, your joys- all of it matters and is more important then you know.
God has a special plan and purpose for the pain that you have experienced. You can trust Him with your heart. He will take the broken pieces and make you new again. Remember to love yourself. Embrace happiness. Seek to honor Christ in everything you do. Pursue your dreams. Cherish every moment you spend with your children.
You will survive this.
No you will do more than just survive....you will thrive.
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