Have you ever heard the quote, "Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig likes it."? Or what about "It's impossible to sling mud and keep your own hands clean."?
Well today I found myself wrestling with the pigs. I climbed the fence and jumped head first right into the mud. I let my frustration and emotions determine my responses. I tried to answer the foolish arguments and in return I became foolish (Prov 26:4)
We all have those people in our lives who know exactly which buttons to push to knock us off our feet. They know our weaknesses and will use those to get a rise out of us. They speak untruths knowing that it's so difficult to remain silent. They have no interest in understanding us, they only want to air their own opinions. (Prov 18:2) When you try to fight with a fool you lose your honor because only a fool insists on quarreling (Prov 20:3)
I hate to admit it but today I lost my honor and acted like a fool. I vented my anger instead of quietly holding it back. (Prov 29:11) I showed my annoyance immediately instead of overlooking the insults. (Prov 12:16)
I ignored the prompting of the Spirit to be quiet and let Him be my defender. The continuous verbal attacks pushed me to be my own defender. The enemy convinced me that I had no other choice but to retaliate with harsh words of my own. So I stooped low and met them on their level. But by God's grace I didn't stay there.
I climbed out of the mud pit and reminded myself that wisdom comes from a spirit of humility. God promises that when I ask Him for wisdom He gives it generously.
Tomorrow is a new day to try again. Tomorrow I will ask God for wisdom and discernment to know when to speak and when to be silent. He also promises that His mercies are new each morning. (Lamentations 3:23) He will give me just what I need to make it through the day.
He will fight for me. All I have to do is be still and trust in His timing. I just can't take matters into my own hands. I must remember that I am a daughter of the King who is clothed in strength and dignity. (Prov 31:25)
The next time I'm tempted to get in the mud pit, I will remember that I have no control over someone's words or actions. However, I have complete control over my reactions and responses.
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