We live in an extremely competitive society. Companies compete for our business. Towns compete to be the "best places to work, live or play". Websites compete for the most visitors. Sports teams compete for championships. Charities compete for donors. Schools compete for excellent ratings. Our children compete for our attention. We compete to be the best parents. It's stay at home moms versus working moms. Homeschooling versus public schools. Organic diets versus processed foods. And the list goes on and on.
We can easily get sucked into comparing ourselves to other women. We think they look better than us or their children are better behaved. Maybe they have nicer clothes or more free time. They are more knowledgable about the Bible. They have
more patience with their children and take more time to instruct them using Scripture. They have a better relationship with their husband and extended
family. At least that's our perception.
What we see in others is what they want us to see. And most times it's not the whole story. Steven Furtick said "One reason we struggle with our insecurity: we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." Everyone loves to share the successes and good times but not many people are so eager to share their struggles and failures with those around them. We continue to perpetuate the illusion that we have it all together because we think we're the only ones who
have such disorganized, chaotic, frustrating, difficult lives.
We also must realize that God has a plan for our lives. That plan is full of ups and downs, successes and failures, joys and sorrows. That plan has been laid out specifically for us by God and it will not look like His plan for someone else. "Never compare your journey with someone else's. Your journey is your journey not a competition."(author unknown) Our journey is meant to draw us closer to Christ and total dependance on Him. We should live each day striving to look more like Jesus not like the woman who has it all together.
So why not take off the mask and stop pretending like life is easy. Be real with the women around you and give them the freedom to share their behind-the-scenes messy, chaotic life.
I am a Christian, a wife, a mom, a VBS crafter, a coupon clipper, a thrift store shopper, a football fan, a cook, a student of the Bible and an avid reader.