One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to walk with your children through disappointment. It can be a betrayal in a relationship, a failing grade or losing someone close to them. As parents, our first reaction is to help our child "fix" whatever is causing them pain. We may give them relationship advice or help them figure out ways to get their grades up. We share Scripture with them to show them that God cares when they're hurting. But there are some disappointments in life that we can't fix with a simple checklist. Sometimes there are questions that we just can't answer.
Right now we are walking through the questions and disappointment of the youth pastor from our church being let go. With 3 teenagers in the house, this situation has brought up lots of questions, sadness, confusion and even some anger. Many of the questions about the "Why?" were addressed by our Lead Pastor. He shared with the youth and parents the long difficult process that led up to this decision. We are grateful for his leadership, openness and his heart for the youth ministry of our church.
This situation has been a huge lesson for our teenagers. A lesson that our oldest articulated extremely well when he said "We don't come to youth group to hear a certain person. We come to youth group to hear from God. It doesn't matter who is on that stage teaching or preaching. What matters is what God wants us to hear."
When I heard my son say that, I was so humbled and proud at the same time. I was humbled because sometimes I'm guilty of wanting to hear a certain person more than I want to hear from God. However, I was also very proud of him for understanding that concept at his age and for sharing it in a room full of parents and youth.
We don't know why God has allowed this to happen right in the middle of our oldest senior year. We don't know why the former youth pastor chose this route. We don't know if there will be a new youth pastor before graduation. There are many unknowns.
As parents, all we can do is listen to the questions and point our children to the one who has the answers.
We know that God is sovereign and He knew this was going to happen and He has a purpose for it. We may not understand it or even like it. And that's ok. We just need to realize that God sees it all and works it all together for our good and His glory.
And even if we never get all of our questions answered, we will continue to trust in the sovereignty of God.
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