During my recent divorce, I chose not to legally change my name back to my maiden name. There were a few reasons but at the time the main one was that I wanted the same last name as my kids. I am "Momma Carlson" after all.
Since I made that choice I have wondered if I should have kept my married name or made the change. For the past couple of months I used my maiden name on social media to try it out. It didn't work for me. It's not me anymore. But then again I'm not married anymore either.
A name is important. It signifies who you are and where you belong. It's something that gets passed down from generation to generation. Family names come with stories and legacies....some good and some bad.
So who am I now? I am still my parent's daughter but yet I am something more. I am no longer the wife of my ex but yet I am the mother to his children who carry his name. I will admit that there were days when emotions were high that I didn't want to be known as a Carlson. I just couldn't get peace about what the right thing was for me.
I began thinking about legacies and the history of our family. That's when it hit me.....carrying on the Carlson name isn't about my ex. It's about a very special woman named May Carlson.
May Carlson was a single woman who never married and who never had any biological children of her own. She worked in textiles and lived with her mother. She was active in her church and sang in the choir. She was a godly woman who prayed and asked God to bring a family into the empty house next door to her so that she could minister to them.
God answered her prayers. A family did move into that house. A large Hispanic family. May befriended the mom and shared Jesus with her. The mom got sick with cancer and she asked May to look out for her kids. When the mom passed away, the youngest was only about 4 years old. May kept her promise to the mom and through a series of events, she became a foster mom to the youngest 2 boys.
May loved God and she shared that love with not just those 2 boys but with the rest of the family as well. She gave everything she had to raise those boys and to try to teach them morals, character and Christian values. The youngest was a handful and seemed to always be getting in trouble for something. She liked to remind him that Jesus was always watching. And made him ask himself if he would do what he was doing if Jesus was sitting next to him.
At the age of 18, as a thank you for everything that she had done for him, the youngest boy went to court and had his name legally changed to Carlson. That was the day that the May Carlson legacy began. That boy is who I married 22 years ago. May Carlson passed away a few years before I met her son. I so wish that I could have met her and gotten to know her. She was a remarkably patient and kind woman. A woman who spent her retirement years raising teenagers and caring for her elderly mother. A woman who became the hands and feet of Jesus right in her own neighborhood.
I am so blessed to be a Carlson "daughter". I want my life to honor Christ and the May Carlson legacy. I want to pass that legacy down to the next generation. I am so thankful that there are 3 Carlson boys to carry on her name and her story for generations to come.
I wonder what she would think about her grandkids? I think she would probably be very happy to know that they love God and are growing up to be amazing young people.
Thank you May for being a praying woman who stepped out into obedience to God. Thank you for loving Jesus enough to serve him in such a practical way. Happy Mother's Day in heaven.
I've been a Mom for 22 years. It has been one of the hardest, most exhausting, most rewarding jobs of my life. I have been there for first steps, first words, first bike rides, first touchdowns, first dances, first drives, first loves, first heartbreaks and first jobs. I've been their nurse, their listening ear, their taxi driver, their teacher, their cheerleader, their driving instructor, their housekeeper and their chef.
I've gone weeks without decent sleep and have spent countless hours crying out to God on their behalf. I've been very proud of my performance as a mom. Maybe at times a little too proud.
It can be easy to look at other moms and compare yourself. Maybe you are at every sporting event and they're not. Maybe they volunteer in the classroom every week and you barely make it to open house once a year. Maybe they prepare gourmet dinners and you eat fast food in the car. Maybe you work a full time job plus overtime and they don't work outside the home. Maybe they read aloud as a family every night before bed and you just make it up as you fill out the reading log. Maybe they always have the laundry done and you can never find a clean towel. I'm a firm believer in the saying, "We're all a hot mess, some just hide it better than others".
We have to be careful when making assumptions about the actions of other moms. We don't know the battles that they're facing. Maybe that mom isn't at the sporting event because she can't miss work. Maybe the mom who works full time does it to put food on the table for her family. Maybe a second job keeps that Mom from reading with her child every night before bed. Maybe the laundry is never done because she chooses to nap during her free afternoon to regain some strength for the rest of the day.
I have to admit that I have been guilty of judging the choices and actions of other moms. I could look in from the outside and think I knew what was going on. And then my world was turned upside down and I was forced to make the hard choices.
Of course I want to be there for everything for my kids, but I am now a solo momma who has to provide food, clothing and shelter for myself and my kids with little help from anyone else. I became the primary provider. It's just me and God paying the bills and putting food on the table.
I don't have a partner to fall back on when things get tough and I want to just stay in bed all day with the covers over my head. I don't have a teammate to help carry the daily load of taking care of a home and raising 2 teenagers. I don't have the choice to not do things because I'm tired or not feeling well. There is no one to rub my back or give me a hug and tell me that everything is going to be ok. I don't have the luxury of blowing things off or not planning ahead. This is such a crucial time in my kids lives. I can't give them everything that they want, but I will do my best to give them everything that's in my power to give them.
Some days I may get 8 hours of sleep and some days I only get 4. Most of my days off are spent running errands or catching up on things that got pushed to the wayside during a busy work week. The mental load of "all the stuff" can be quite overwhelming and at times seem impossible. However, when you are a solo momma, quitting is not an option.
Solo mommas just keep doing what needs to be done for their children. You don't think about whether it's fair or right that you have to give so much. You just do it for your kids. You somehow find the strength deep within to just never stop.
People tell me that they don't know how I do it. They ask me if I'm taking on too much. My answer to that is very simple....there is nothing that is too much to make life better for my kids. They are only in my home for a few short years and it is my job to give them as much stability and love as I possibly can. I need to be there to listen when they have exciting news to share or a problem to solve. I want them to know that the only thing in my life more important than them is my relationship with Christ.
Am I stretching myself thin? Most definitely. Would I like to get more sleep and have more "Me Time"? Yes, it would be nice. Do my kids' needs and wants come before my own? Of course. Do we get on each other's nerves? Ummmm......YES!!! Do I always have money for what they want? Nope. Do they know that if it's important to them that I will move heaven and earth to make it happen?? Absolutely without a doubt!!!Will they ever doubt my love and devotion to them? Absolutely Not!!!
Being a solo mom has given me a strength that I never knew I was capable of. It has opened my eyes to struggles that I didn't fully understand before. It has shown me how easy it can be to misjudge something when you've never lived it!!!
I was going through some old unfinished blogs and I came across one from August 1, 2017. Here's what I wrote on that day:
The past few days have been full of activity with the kids but I am struggling with depression and sadness. At random times and random places, the emotions just overwhelm me and I start crying. I pray and listen to worship music to help lift the feelings of despair and hopelessness. But the reality is that infidelity is trauma of the heart. It is a trauma that doesn't just heal quickly either.
I've been told that I need to just get over the pain and move on. That I will find someone else to love me and then everything will be all better. I'm sorry but that is a lie from the devil. Most psychologists say it takes between 1 and 2 years to truly heal from infidelity.
As I was doing some reading today I came across an article about the trauma of infidelity. For those who have never had to walk down this path, I think this gives a very accurate description of what it feels like.
"Infidelity feels like intense hate that is meant to agonizingly carve the love right out of your heart. A sadistic and vengeful way to say, "I despise you like no other person on earth." It is the combination of evil and hate that rips at your heart, spitting a venom of condemnation, from someone who feels like the devil; only this time the devil is wearing your spouses face. From an enemy you may expect such ruthlessness, but not from your spouse. It is the ultimate rejection of your very being from the person who knows you the most. It is horror that terrorizes every moment of your life as it kills your dreams of what your life is, was, and will be. The shock of the assault feels no different than if your spouse plunged a knife deep into your heart, while you let out a bloodcurdling scream of destruction to your self-esteem and safety. It is mocking of your love, a statement of reprisal. The confusion so overwhelming and dismaying - How could this person who claimed to love you, dispose of your affections so ruthlessly, tearing them from your heart one vicious and bloody slash after another. "
Wow!! Reading that again today, 7months later reminds me what an emotional wreck I was. I still can't believe how accurate that article was at putting into words the pain that I felt. But more importantly reading those words shows me how far I have come in my healing process. God has proven to be there every step of the way. He has comforted me. He has repaired my broken heart and has held me up when I was too weak to stand on my own two feet. He brought just the right people into my life at just the right times. He loved me with a reckless love that never waivered. He strengthened me a little more each day. When I cried out to him he heard me and answered me.
I was talking to my daughter the other day about my choice to not run straight into another relationship. I told her that I had purposely avoided that so that I could focus on complete healing and learn about me again. I wanted to know that I wasn't using a relationship with someone else as a band aid for my pain and broken heart. She said, "Well Mom actually you did run straight to a guy....well to THE guy....God."
And in that moment, I just smiled deeply and knew that I had done it. I had survived the worst time of my life and even though I didn't always say the right thing or do the right thing, my kids saw WHO I relied on. They saw that in my worst moments, I trusted God to carry me and help me carry on. They saw that I didn't do any of this in my own strength.
I tried to hide my weakness from them but I remember one day I was really struggling emotionally and I was trying to talk to the kids about something. I think it might have been about chores or schedules. I just remember saying, "Whatever, I don't care. I'm tired. I'm going to bed." I fell into bed, pulled the covers over my head and began crying. Madison came into my room, laid down beside me, put her arm around me and said, "It's ok to cry Mom. You don't have to always be so strong for us." Of course that made me cry even more. Heck it still makes me cry even now. But it's happy tears of how blessed I am to have these amazing kids in my life.
We're all in different stages of the healing process and will progress through the stages in our own time. My wounds are beginning to scar over. Some areas are still tender and will take a little longer to heal. However, when I read what I've written in the past I am so thankful for the progress that I have made. With God's help I have not remained stuck in the trauma of the infidelity and hatefulness.
I refuse to put a time table on my full recovery. I don't know when I will be whole again and ready to find someone to love. I just know that I will continue to focus on God's plan, God's Word, God's direction and His purpose for my life. I will continue to do the hard work required to rebuild myself.
Trauma creates change you DON'T choose. Healing is about creating change you DO choose. ~Michelle Rosenthal
I've not really made a big deal about my birthday in the past several years. Usually dinner with the family was the extent of the celebrating. Sometimes I celebrated birthday weekend, but lets be honest that was just an excuse to not have to cook or clean. For my 40th birthday a few years back, my mom and aunt came up and we had a full weekend of celebrating. This year I decided to do things a little differently.
A friend inspired me to celebrate birthday month. And honestly this year I needed to celebrate myself and the life that I have been blessed with. This year February was the 1 year anniversary of my ex moving out, the date for the final court hearing for the divorce and my first Valentine's Day in 22 years without a significant other. I needed to focus on the good things to keep me from crashing down emotionally.
So that's what I did. I started the month with lunch out with my "birthday month celebrating" friend and I ended the month with a day trip to the beach. On the days in between, I celebrated the little things like sleeping in, taking a bubble bath, a warm sunny day or watching Netflix with the kids. I enjoyed a 9 day vacation right in the middle of the month. I celebrated special gifts and cards from family, friends and even a couple of strangers.
I was very thankful for the warning I got from the policeman instead of the speeding ticket. That was definitely a moment to celebrate. I had lunch with Bible study friends and dinner with some fellow February birthday girls. I celebrated the news that I had gotten the second job that I had applied for and I figured out the mechanical issue with my daughter's car. Madison and I celebrated Valentine's Day by going to see "The Greatest Showman". It was so good...we absolutely loved it!!
On my birthday, the kids and I flew to Chicago for a couple of days. We had fun shopping and exploring a new city. I got to eat yummy Chicago deep dish pizza for my birthday dinner and a cupcake from Magnolia Bakery for my "birthday cake".
And even though it was difficult, I was thankful to be able to finalize the divorce agreements and conclude the legal aspect of the divorce. During my month of celebrating another year of life, my 22 year marriage officially ended. I could focus on the sadness and heartbreak of that, but instead I am choosing to see the possibilities of new beginnings. I will celebrate who I am becoming, the lessons that I have learned and the strength that I have gained through the challenges. I will celebrate my growth from an insecure woman who was afraid to use her voice to the confident, bold woman who understands her value and her worth. I have faced so many challenges head on and have succeeded in getting back up every time that life knocked me down. I have learned that it's ok to have dreams and passions and to pursue those. God has put those things into my heart because he has created me to fulfill them. Anytime that I have pursued those passions, I have felt so much peace and joy. However, I had a habit of allowing the dreams and passions of my ex to take priority. I worked to make his dreams a reality and was supportive of him. I didn't understand why he could not return that support towards my pursuits. It has taken some time but I have realized that was his character issue not mine. When you truly love someone you support them in their God given purpose.
As I look forward into the future, I am so excited for new opportunities, new possibilities, new milestones and new things to celebrate. I am already making plans for fun things to do for Birthday Month 2019. I will definitely be taking another vacation week and maybe go somewhere new!!
But I'm not gonna just sit around and wait for next year to celebrate my life. I'm going to try really hard to find the good in every day.....the gift of family....the joy of friendship....the peace of God.....the blessings of gratitude......and the hope of true love.
Today is the beginning of February....also known as the Love Month. It's a time to show your special someone that you love them or maybe wish that you had a special someone to love. It's a popular month for flowers, chocolate and greeting cards. There's nothing wrong with celebrating the one that you love, but as Christians God tells us to show love to one another always...not just in February. He also tells us to show love to the difficult people in our lives. This is no easy task.
It's easy to love the ones that we feel deserve our love. But what about the ones who have wronged us or caused harm to us in some way? Our desire is to see justice prevail. We can feel justified in treating them harshly or refusing to show them love or kindness in any form. Especially, if like me you rank justice higher than mercy. We want mercy for ourselves but would prefer others to be dealt with according to what we feel they deserve.
I like how 1 Peter 1:22 describes how we are to love. Depending on the translation it tells us to love sincerely, fervently, brotherly, earnestly, and unselfishly. It's not a passive kind of love. It is a messy, sweaty, hard working in the trenches kind of love.
The Message translates it this way, "love one another as if your lives depended on it." When our lives depend on something, we take it seriously and we make sure we do it to the best of our ability. We don't ignore things that our life depends on. We don't treat those things flippantly or carelessly. That's how seriously we are to love one another.
But why are we to love one another with such fervor? Because Christ loved us and gave His life for us. He doesn't say just love those who are nice and lovable. That doesn't really prove our love for Christ. It's love shown to the friend who has betrayed you. It's a kind response to someone's angry rant. It's taking your justice seeking attitude to God and asking Him to help you to not seek your own revenge. Like I said it's no easy task but our obedience to Christ's command to love others is not optional.
Loving others like Jesus loved is costly. It is a self sacrificing love and can only be accomplished through the power of the Holy Spirit. We are not perfect and we will not always love others perfectly. But we must strive to love like Jesus in every situation.
I was reading a lesson on Bible.org the other day and I think the author summed up what it looks like to love like Jesus in the real world. Here's what he said:
"Does loving someone require that I like that person? Does it mean that I must become a close friend with a difficult person? By looking at Jesus’ example, I have to say, “Not necessarily.” While He loved all people, He did not give His time equally to all. He spent the most time with His disciples, but even among the twelve, He was closer to Peter, James, and John. And John is the only one called, “the disciple whom Jesus loved” (John 13:1, 23).
Jesus didn’t even spend time with His half-brothers when He had the opportunity. He could have gone up to the feast with them (John 7:1-10), which would have meant several days of traveling together. He could have used that time to influence them, since they were not yet believing in Him. But He let them go alone and then He went later by Himself.
Jesus also loved His enemies, the Jewish leaders, but He constantly provoked and confronted them. He instructed His disciples to shake the dust off their feet and move on if people rejected them and their message (Matt. 10:14). Apparently, that was the loving thing to do, since Jesus never would have commanded them not to love their enemies (Matt. 5:44).
Also, since biblical love seeks the highest good for the other person, namely, that he become more like Christ, love sometimes requires confronting the person with his sin or letting him experience the consequences of his sin so that he learns to hate it (Acts 8:18-24; 13:6-12). Love does not enable a person to continue in sinful or irresponsible ways. Love tries to help a person learn to be obedient to God and responsible to “bear his own load” (Gal. 6:5).
I don’t say any of this to give you a cop out from loving difficult people, but rather, as Paul put it (Phil. 1:9), my aim is “that your love may abound still more and more in real knowledge and all discernment.” I encourage you to meditate often on the characteristics of love in 1 Corinthians 13. Then go through Paul’s letters and his actions in the Book of Acts and see how he worked out those qualities in real situations." Steven J Cole
So who are the difficult people who you need to love like Jesus loved you? Is there someone you need to confront with Christian love? Is there a situation that you are holding a grudge about because justice was not served? Apply Jesus' love to the situation and know that God's plan for you cannot be thwarted by the sinful, careless or hateful actions of others. This is a real struggle for me and many days I fail at it miserably. I'm thankful that each day is a new start and a new opportunity to practice the discipline of loving like Jesus.
On January 2nd, I shared that my word for 2018 was FOCUS. I was going to silence distractions and avoid foolish arguments so that I could focus on the important things in my life. Well the first week didn't go well at all.
I allowed stress to get the best of me. I engaged in more than one foolish argument. I was distracted by so many things. By the end of the week I was an emotional wreck. I had given others the power to steal my peace and joy. I let my roller coaster emotions dictate my attitude.
Sunday morning I woke up with the desire for a restart. We were beginning the #21DaysofPrayer at church and I wanted to refocus my heart and mind on God and what I could control.
During the message, Pastor Pat listed 3 things we needed to get out of our lives.....doubt, negativity and sin; and 3 things we needed to get in.....God's Word, worship, and prayer. So that's what I did. I took my doubts to God. When negative thoughts or comments came to me, I filtered them through the truth of God's Word.
And what a different week I had. God's presence was felt and there was peace in my heart. My difficulties didn't all vanish but when I took them to God I lowered my stress level immensely.
I found the following on Pinterest and feel that it is a great explanation of what my goals are for this year. So it has become my daily mantra as I get a restart on my new year.
Over the past month or so I have been thinking about what word will be my theme for 2018. I have a lot on my plate and I'm constantly being pulled in multiple directions. It's easy for me to feel overwhelmed and distracted from what's important in my life. I spend precious time and energy in foolish arguments and unnecessary drama. So for 2018, my word is FOCUS.
This year I will live each day with intentional FOCUS on the important things and not let the distractions pull me away.
I will FOCUS first on my personal relationship with Christ. I will FOCUS on His Word and His plans for my future. I will take my needs and concerns to Him and trust Him to provide.
I will FOCUS on my relationships with my kids. I will take every opportunity to point them towards Jesus as the center of their life. I will raise them to love and honor God with their choices. I will make the most of my time with them and have open and honest conversations with them about life issues.
I will FOCUS on working hard at my job and taking new opportunities to provide financially for my family. I will be intentional in my work relationships to make sure that my words and actions are a testimony of my faith.
I will FOCUS on the process of healing my heart and ensuring that bitterness doesn't take root. I will seek God's comfort and love to heal the cracks and prepare to one day love again. I will not rush the healing process but will FOCUS on God's timing.
I will FOCUS on building stronger friendships with the godly women in my life. I will FOCUS on being a good friend by weeping with those who weep and rejoicing with those who rejoice. I will FOCUS on showing kindness to everyone who crosses my path.
There will be lots of challenges and circumstances in 2018 that I will not be able to prevent or control. But I can choose to FOCUS on the blessings, lessons and growth that will happen in the midst of it all.
“The more you focus on yourself, the more distracted you will be from the proper path. The more you know Him and commune with Him, the more the Spirit will make you like Him. The more you are like Him, the better you will understand His utter sufficiency for all of life’s difficulties. And that is the only way to know real satisfaction.” John MacArthur
In just a few short days 2017 will come to an end. It has been the hardest year of my life and I am ready to leave it behind. It's time to figure out how to begin a new chapter and get unstuck from the old one.
At the end of each year, I like to take time to reflect on memories made, struggles faced and lessons learned. At first glance, 2017 was a year that I might want to just forget all together. But upon closer inspection, I am reminded of some amazing growth for me and huge milestones for my kids.
Through the pain of betrayal I have grown stronger and learned that God's love wraps around us and carries us through the tough days. The days when we don't want to be strong and resilient anymore. The days when we just want them to see the pain they cause and to care enough to change. The days when the weight of hard decisions feels like it will crush us. God draws close and holds us tight.
Through financial abandonment, I have witnessed God's faithfulness to provide in so many ways. Some days it was a card in the mail, a gift left on my doorstep or a friend just stopping by. I have learned that hard work and trust in God go hand in hand. I can't just sit around waiting for God to take care of my needs. I also can't keep everything in and pretend that it's all OK. I have to work hard and take the opportunities that God gives me. I have to be honest when someone asks how things are going instead of just answering "I'm fine". I have to be willing to accept help from those who offer. God has used some amazing angels this year to bless me and show me that he has not left me to do this alone.
Through fun times I have learned that laughter really is great medicine and that my kids are growing into some amazing people. Through my struggles to be strong for them I have learned that they love me and they understand that I am human and make mistakes. They don't expect me to be perfect and to never have a meltdown when the stress piles up. They just need to see me keep getting back up and never giving up.
We have made some great memories this year. We welcomed a new furry friend into our family. An English bulldog named Jovi Lynn. She has been a handful but she also brings so much joy and love.
I was able to visit the beach twice this year. Once during Spring Break with Madison and then again in June with all four kids and lots of extended family.
Madison got her driver's license in July and a car from my Mom in August. Tyler started high school and played JV & Freshman football. During a summer youth camp he rededicated his life to Christ and was baptized. Noah completed his first year of college and earned an athletic scholarship towards his second. Christian and Nichole got married and have begun creating a life for themselves.
I will always see 2017 as a major turning point in my life. It was the year when all of the chains fell off and I gained strength, freedom and peace. I found my voice. I found me again. The me that I had forgotten even existed. Despite all of the hardship, I have become a better me. A me who knows that without God, I can do nothing. A me who refuses to settle for excuses. A me whose story is still being written by God.
2017 was a year of growth that would not have happened if my circumstances were different. I look forward to new adventures, new lessons and new growth in 2018.
As Christmas Day 2017 draws to a close, I am thankful for the memories made and the blessings of family. Christmas has always been one of my favorite times of year. I love the traditions, family time and giving just the right gift....but things were different this year. It was the first Christmas since the separation. The first Christmas since my firstborn got married. The first Christmas morning that I had to work.
As the kids and I talked about what Christmas would look like this year, there were many traditions that we knew would continue. Some would include their Dad and some would not. We wanted to include the newlyweds in as much as possible but also wanted them to have the freedom to spend time as a couple making their own Christmas memories.
We enjoyed a great Christmas dinner together on Christmas Eve. All 7 of us sitting around the table eating, laughing and talking. It looked like so many other Christmas dinners from the past. The table was set with the Magnolia dishes. One of the few nice things we bought as a young married couple. We've lost a plate and cup along the way. But that dish set has survived 4 wild kids, two decades of holiday meals, and at least a dozen moves.
For that hour of the day, it was like the turmoil of our circumstances didn't exist. For a brief moment I forgot about the pain of the past 10 months. We were practicing in real time what we had been reading about in our Advent devotionals.....the unstoppable, unbeatable love of God. Just like the baby that was born in a stinky messy stable, God's love meets us in the messy muck of our lives and forever changes us.
After dinner, their Dad left and the kids and I went to the Christmas Eve service at our old church. It was so great to be there and see so many friends who are like family to us. I heard over and over again that we were loved, missed and prayed for. Being there with all 5 of my kids was an amazing gift that overwhelmed me with joy. No matter what is going on in my life, centering our focus around Christ is what Christmas will always be about for me.
Towards the end of the service the worship leader sang a song that I love and the tears began to fall. The song is "Somewhere in Your Silent Night" by Casting Crowns. Every time I hear that song it speaks so deeply to my broken heart. Here are some of the lyrics:
Somewhere in your silent night
Heaven hears the song your broken heart has cried
Hope is here just lift your head
For love has come to find you somewhere in your silent night.
From heaven's height to manger low
There is no distance that the Prince of Peace won't go
From manger low to Calvary's hill
When your pain runs deep
His love runs deeper still
Christmases may be different from now on but God's gift of love will never end. Our traditions may change but the reason that we celebrate will not. In the midst of joy, heartbreak and gratefulness I have hope for what is to come. Hope for healing, forgiveness and continued peace.
Christmas 2017 was a different kind of Christmas but I cherished each moment and I am so in awe of all that God did for me during the season. And technically it's not quite over yet. We're now in Georgia spending the next few days celebrating with extended family.
I hope that you were able to enjoy the season with your friends and family. And no matter what level of dysfunction you identify with, just remember that Jesus meets us right in the middle of the mess and carries us through.
When we are young we are afraid of monsters being under our beds or in our closets. Our parents will come in and assure us that there are no monsters. We might make them open the closet doors and double check before we believe them.
As we get older we no longer need to look under the beds or in the closets. The monsters that we once feared have made their home in our heads. They keep us anxious and worried about a variety of things.
We are constantly asking questions about life. What are other people saying about me? Will they still be my friend tomorrow? Will I find someone to love me no matter what? What happens if I don't get the job? How will I be able to provide for my family? What if things don't go as planned?
It's not bad to ask questions, but the monsters will make us believe that we're not lovable or valuable. They'll convince us that no one cares and that we'll never accomplish anything important.
If we listen to the monsters we will miss out on the amazing part of life. We will be too afraid to step out and use the gifts that God has blessed us with. We will constantly see the negative side of things.
We must face the monsters and take away their power in our lives. We have to combat the fear and lies with the truth of God's Word and the value we have as His creation. The more truth that we speak, the weaker the monsters become.
What power have you given the monsters in your life?
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