My husband and I have been very selective in who we encourage our teenagers to seek out for godly counsel. We want them to have mentors who love God and love them. Mentors that listen to them, pray with them and encourage them to follow God's Word. Mentors who challenge them to strive for holiness in every area of their lives. We have been blessed to have some amazing people who have come alongside us and have poured such great godly counsel into our lives and the lives of our children.
But right now, I'm struggling with the news that my teenagers have been given what I see as ungodly counsel. This counsel did not come from any of the amazing people that are a part of our group of godly mentors. But it did come from other Christian adults.
And now I have to decide what to do. "How do you respond when your teenager is given ungodly counsel?" Counsel that goes against what you and your husband have strong convictions about based on God's Word. Counsel that encourages your teenager to throw out their own convictions. Counsel that could damage their testimony and future.
I don't have all the answers just yet. However, this situation has been a great reminder to me that I cannot slack off in the training and discipling of my children. I need to continue teaching them the truths of the Bible and look for ways to apply them daily. They have to know the truth so they can spot the false teachers and ungodly counsel.
It has also served as a huge confirmation to me of the importance of knowing who is giving counsel to your children. It doesn't matter whether they are 11 or almost 19, you have to know. And sometimes you have to make the difficult choices to remove certain people from your child's sphere of influence.
As I write this, my prayer is that God would put a hedge of protection around the hearts and minds of my children as they continue to grow in the strength and knowledge of the Lord. And that He would give me wisdom and discernment to do what is necessary to protect them from ungodly counsel....especially when it comes from those who claim to care.
How would you respond if your child was given ungodly counsel? I'd love to know!!
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