Parenting four children in four different stages of life is not an easy task. Raising those four children in "the instruction of the Lord" in the world we live in makes it an even harder task. Instilling the importance of Godly character in our children takes prayer and seeking after God's direction.
What happens when instead of seeking God's direction we seek the approval of others? What happens when we make our parenting decisions based on pleasing our child or the church or friends or a grandparent or a coach? I think what happens is that we fail our children.
We fail our children by showing them that our decisions can be manipulated or changed by enlisting the help of just the right person. We show them that we lack authority and confidence in our decisions. That lack of authority can lead to a lack of respect. We show them that we're not really using God's Word as a basis for our parenting because God's Word is consistent and unchanging.
While there is nothing wrong with seeking the advice and counsel from other parents or a pastor, we must not give in to someone else's opinion if we feel God is leading us in a different direction. I am extremely grateful that we have received great Godly counsel from many people over the years. But ultimately my husband and I are held accountable for the training of our children.
Personal experience has shown me that when a decision is changed because of the desire to please someone else, conflict arises within my spirit. It may not happen immediately...but it happens. Many times the fault is my own because I haven't chosen to be solid in my decision. There's an internal battle of not wanting to be the bad guy. When we leave a little uncertainty , children sense that from a mile away. One small hesitation in an answer to my kids and they see hope for a big fat Yes!! No matter how many times I have said no to the exact same request.
So I encourage you, seek God's face for the decisions you have to make in raising your children. Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. Your children and others around you may not be pleased at the moment, but if honoring God is your ultimate goal then pleasing others won't matter.
I am a Christian, a wife, a mom, a VBS crafter, a coupon clipper, a thrift store shopper, a football fan, a cook, a student of the Bible and an avid reader.