Her goal is to destroy his family in the hopes that he'll fulfill her dreams for her own. She gives no thought to the devastation her continued presence is causing in the lives of his children. She is selfish and calculating in her actions. She does whatever is necessary to convince him that he doesn't need a relationship with his kids. He is so blinded to the truth that he believes anything she tells him.
If he has a friendly conversation with his wife she makes sure to demonize her and give her words a negative spin. She can't have him on good terms with his wife. That will interfere with her plans.
She thinks she is the only one that could ever make him happy. But deep down she knows that she doesn't measure up to the wife that he walked away from. They have a history that no matter how hard she tries she can't figure out how to erase it. She tries to convince him that there was never any love in his marriage and that his wife expected too much from him. And right now he's weak enough to believe her.
She desperately craves the stability and commitment that she's asking him to walk away from. Her life has been full of heartache and pain. She has put her children through so much upheaval while she searched for love and security.
Most importantly she doesn't know Jesus. She doesn't know what it means to love, honor and cherish. She knows how men are wired and she exploits it for her own advantage and evil purposes. Her ultimate goal is to please herself.
She knows he has work that he loves but she needs that gone as well. She needs him completely helpless and disconnected from anyone that will tell him that what he is doing is wrong.
She is a dangerous woman just like the woman in Proverbs 5.....the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword. Proverbs 7 adds......with her many persuasions she entices him; with her flattering lips she seduces him.
"Words are a major part of the seduction arsenal as the seductress flatters her prey and makes the man feel really good about himself (see also Proverbs 6:24,7:5). As the man’s ego grows, so does his sexual appetite. Her verbal persuasions continue by painting a visual picture of what she wants to do and where and how she wants to do it (Proverbs 7:14-18). She is an expert in deception, persuading her prey into believing that there will be no consequences or that the consequences can be avoided (Proverbs 7:19-20). She uses her beauty, her eyes, her body, her clothes, and her words to blur the man’s judgment such that he becomes caught up in the moment (Proverbs 7:10,13). This is why Joseph immediately fled when Potiphar’s wife approached him in a seductive manner (Genesis 39:12) as he recognized that any hesitation on his part would prove seriously dangerous"
- Relevant Bible Teaching
The truth is that once she is finished with the him, she will move onto the next one. Proverbs 7:26 says "many are the victims that she has cast down and numerous are all her slain." She will destroy him, devour him and then she will leave him all alone. His life will be in ruins and he will wonder how a simple friendship caused so much destruction.
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