In this season of my life, I often feel like a soldier returning from battle weary and exhausted. I don't have the strength for one more correction, one more discussion. one more failed expectation. I don't want to referee one more sibling dispute or remind one more child to use kind words. I don't want to have one more discussion on purity and why it's important. Training and disciplining take their toll and I want to just give up and give in.
On those days, I just want peace and quiet. I want to just go back to bed and cover up my head. I want to ignore the disobedience and disrespect. Or if it's too blatant to ignore, I want to find ways to justify it so I don't have to deal with it.
Those are the times when I want to believe the lies of the enemy. He tells me that I expect too much of them and need to back off. Or that their disobedience isn't really a big deal. He tells me that compared to other parents, I'm way to strict. He wants me to believe those lies so he can gain a stronghold on them and lead them down a path of destruction.
This week has been one of those weeks of day after day weariness of parenting. I've spent much time in prayer t seeking guidance and asking God, "Do I expect too much of my children?" This morning He gave me a huge resounding "NO".
My spirit was so refreshed by the message of Dr. Chuck Lawless. He preached about spiritual warfare and how the enemy is still using the same tactics he did in the garden. And one of the enemy's prime targets is the home!! He wants to destroy the family so it looks nothing like Christ desires it to look. He doesn't want husbands to love their wives like Christ loved the church. He doesn't want children to honor and obey their parents. He wants us to be so busy that we do not have time to "bring our children up in the strength and admonition of the Lord".
The enemy distracts us with the world's idea of being a good parent. One that makes sure our children are happy, entertained, successful and allowed to be who they want to be. But God's standards are so much higher. God commands parents to teach their children about Him all throughout the day. God's Word should permeate our homes. It should be our guide for every choice and every decision. Raising children who love Christ and want to be like Him should be our goal. We're to be making disciples who are willing to "Go"!
My weariness often comes when I lose sight of my eternal purpose as a parent. Or when I forget that my children have a sin nature just like their mom. A sin nature that does not easily comply with God's standards. They have a heart that is deceitful and desperately wicked. A heart that only God can change. They too are in a daily battle against the enemy, flesh and the world.
In my weariness God wants me to depend on Him and His strength. He doesn't want me to give up or give in. He wants me to give it over to Him. He wants me to take every opportunity in our home to teach the importance of obedience, honesty, purity, faithfulness and then leave the end results up to him.
So I will continue fighting the battle for the hearts of my children. I will continue to train and disciple and discipline. I will go against the grain of this world and expect greatness from my children. Not worldly greatness, but greatness in the eyes of God.
What about you? Do you grow weary in parenting?
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