Have you ever thought about what it's like to be your friend, your spouse, your co-worker, or your neighbor? Have you ever wondered how your presence affects those around you? We all have people in our lives that encourage us and inspire us. We also have those people who continually drain us or irritate us. There are those whose temperament causes us to constantly walk on eggshells because we don't have a clue how our actions will affect them today. There are some who we enjoy spending time with because they uplift us as a mom or friend. Then there are those who are never happy no matter what we do for them. When I think about the people in my life, it's fairly easy to see how their presence affects me and my mood. But what about me? How does my presence affect those around me?
Of course we all want to think that we are always great friends, loving spouses and helpful neighbors. We've all done something nice for a co-worker or family member and wished they would do something half as nice for us. As a wife and mom, I can find myself focusing on all that I do for my family and forget how my attitude impacts them. But if I am honest with myself, I know that there are many times when my presence brings stress and frustration to them.
When I start barking orders and allow my selfish desire to just vent come before showing love, I negativley impact the climate of my home. When I expect my family's love to fill the void that only God can fill then I negatively impact the climate of my home. When I don't listen to my children share their feelings because I'm too tired or too distracted, I negatively impact the climate of my home. When I'm not consistent with my daily study of God's Word, then I negatively impact the climate of my home. When I choose to let an issue slide because I want to avoid conflict, then I negatively impact the climate of my home. However, I can also have a positive impact on the climate in my home as well.
When I take time to do devotions with my children, it has a positive impact on the climate of our home. When I use kind words and remind others what God expects of us in certain situations, it positively impacts those around me. When I joyfully serve and put others first, it has a positive impact on the climate of my home. When I start everyday soaking up God's Word and taking every care and concern to Him, then I positively impact the climate of my home.
Our presence will have some kind of impact on those around us. It's our choice as to what we want that impact to be. Do we want people to feel uneasiness or dread when we walk through the door? or do we want them to experience joy and encouragement while they are with us? Do we suck the life out of others or do we
I heard a pastor challenge his congregation to ask 3 people to honestly answer this question: What's it like to be on the other side of me? And when you ask it, you don't get to defend yourself, argue with the person or explain anything. Just listen to what they have to say. I'm gonna do it and I challenge you to do the same. Let's see what it's really like to be around us. Just be prepared for answers you may not like.
I am a Christian, a wife, a mom, a VBS crafter, a coupon clipper, a thrift store shopper, a football fan, a cook, a student of the Bible and an avid reader.